victor's blog

You sincerely want to help, but what if you employ strategies and habits that cause harm. Genuineness doesn’t expunge incompetence. Portraits of lousy helpers: Overeager helper: When time allows, step back and let people struggle with their own challenges and problems. 4 benefits of struggle: Self-respect. Grit. Struggle strengthens. Over-protection propagates weakness. Openness. When people feel the challenge of struggle, it opens them to receive help. Learning moments often come slowly. Respect for help. Quick interventions feel degrading to recipients. Needy helper: Helping elevates perceived self-worth but lowers the status of others. It’s not helpful to make others feel less competent when you want them to boldly take ownership. Controlling helper: Expert helpers need others to do exactly as they’re told. In the end, dependency develops. The goal of helping is getting to the place where helping isn’t needed. 3 Tips for humble helpers:...

The cure: The idea that you can overcome arrogance is an expression of arrogance. Don’t try to overcome arrogance. You can’t stop that puffy feeling in your chest when respected leaders respect you. It just happens. The practices of humility are the only cure for arrogance. In my early twenties an elderly gentleman complimented me on my choice of clothing. I gave him a short lesson on style. I’m embarrassed by that today. Humility says thank you. Arrogance gives a lesson. Notice your arrogance and respond with humility.

“In quietness and in confidence shall be your strength.”  Isaiah 30:15 All agitation is destructive of good.  All calm is constructive of good, and at the same time destructive of evil. When man wants evil destroyed so often he rushes to action.  It is wrong. First be still and know that I am God. Then act only as I tell you. Always calm with God. Calm is trust in action. Only trust, perfect trust can keep one calm. Never be afraid of any circumstances or difficulties that help you to cultivate this calm. As the world, to attain, has to learn speed, you, to attain, have to learn calm.  All great work for Me is done first in the individual soul of the worker. Stand ye in the ways, and see, and ask for the old paths, where is the good way, and walk therein, and ye shall find rest for your souls.  Jeremiah 6:16

Of what use is it to discourse learnedly on the Trinity, if u lack HUMILITY & therefore displease d Trinity? Lofty words do not make a man Just or Holy, but a good life makes him dear to God...

When you’ve prayed every prayer that you know how to pray, sometimes you just run out of words and all you can say is “Lord, have mercy.”

I Cant Brag about my LOVE for GOD bcoz I Fail him Daily. But I Can Brag about his LOVE for ME bcoz it NEVER FAILS